Intimate Treason

A self-help manual for partners affected by sex addiction.

IntroductionChapter I: Claiming Your Reality1. Telling your Story2. My Suspicions Realized3. The Word4. The Ripple Effect5. Managing Triggers6. Bottom Line: Non Negotiable Boundaries7. Deciding Whom To Tell8. Seeking Help Through ConnectionsChapter II: Turning inward1. Vision for Self2. Living in Limbo3. Defining Trauma Responses4. Grief with Partners5. My Losses6. Letters to My Self7. Feelings8. Emotions The Body9. Personal StrengthsChapter III: My Part of the DanceA. Emotional Problems1. Emotional Regulation2. Stepping out of Reaction Into Action3. Unraveling the Myths of Control4. My Relationship to Anger5. The Myth of PerfectionismB. Perception Problems1. Coping or Defending: The Paradox of Denying Reality2. Remove the Veil3. Protecting the Illusion4. Cloudy to Clear: Transforming Distorted Thinking5. Magical Thinking: Challenging the Fantasy6. Stepping Out of The Victim7. Tolerating the UnacceptableC. Behavioral Problems1. My Risky Behaviors2. Relationship & Love Addiction3. Co-MorbidityChapter IV: Recognizing Childhood Influences1. Family of Origin Influences2. Abandonment Repeated3. Trauma Repetition4. Family Tree5. Family of Origin Feelings6. Family of Origin Needs7. Trust: Trusting Own Perception8. Family of Origin Boundaries9. Willingness to Explore MoreChapter V: Taking Charge of Your Own Life1. Disclosure2. Boundaries3. Decision to Stay or Leave4. Communication5. Arrested Grief6. Integrating Sexuality Back into the Relationship: Healthy Sexuality7. Children8. Healthy Intimacy Begins to be ExploredChapter VI: Moving Forward1. Forgiveness pieces2. Spirituality3. Recovery plans4. Living Day-to-Day: Goals for Myself: Self-care Daily Sheet